How Do You Know When To Say Something . . .

I have a confession to make I am compulsive helper.  I do not know if others would consider it helping or being intrusive.  After having fallen down so many times myself, I cannot bare to watch others do the same.  When I am watching television or a movie and I know a character is about to brutally embarrass themselves or make a big mistake, I have to mute it and cover my eyes or just change the channel.  Don't worry I completely recognize that the characters are not real people and they are not really being embarrassed.  Just the thought of someone else being embarrassed or hurt really strikes me.  It is for this reason when I see someone who is about to crash and burn I feel the urge to jump in and try and save them from getting hurt.  But where is the line between helping and being intrusive?  Where is the line between allowing someone to make their own mistakes and watching them crash and burn?  When is it okay to say something?

One Life's Greatest And Most Beautiful Marvels!

This is my goddess/goddaughter who is one of the newest loves of my life.  She is truly a shiny, shiny star that lights up my world and I love her very much.  I feel truly blessed and honoured to have been chosen to be a part of her life.  Thank you Ella and Luca for trusting me with what is most precious to you.

A Good Friend Is Hard To Lose

One of the great loves of my life.

Maybe not so recently I learned that one of the great loves of my life is moving to China for a least a year.  Admittedly,  my heart is a little broken that my sister is leaving on her great adventure without me.  But I know that this is an adventure she needs to take without me, so that she can learn the lessons that she needs to learn.  If I was there I might feel compelled to protect her and inadvertedly cause her to miss the learning opprotunity.  I know that this adventure will come with joys and growing pains and that will transform her into an even more beautiful person.  Sarah, I love you.

Good Friends Are Forever!

I feel so enormously lucky to have such amazing friends.  It took a long time to find them and cultivate those relationships, but I have to say I am truly blessed to have such wonderful friends in my life.  I think it is so important to acknowledge the loving people in our lives who support us through the ups and downs.

10 Steps Ahead Please

The Thinking Ten Steps Ahead for some people might seem hard, but once you make it your way of thinking, it's easy.  Start with step 10 and work your way backward.  Step 10 is your final goal.  Then you have to decide what needs to happen in order for step 10 to be realized.  Once you have done this, put each step into a logical order and this forms steps 1 - 9.  For each step figure out what is required to complete it.  Also ask yourself who and what else is affected by that step.  This can eliminate steps that are inefficiant or create mini steps to be completed before moving on to another step.
For example, I want to throw a small dinner party.  The dinner party is my step 10.  What do I need to make that happen?  I will need to decide who will be attending.  But then I have to take their avaliability into account to make sure that they will be able to come.  Don't forget that depending on the number of people attending, parking may be an issue. How many parking spots can you offer. Is there free or cheap parking nearby. Guests do not want to pay for parking. Once I have determined my numbers I will be able to determine how many plates, forks, knives and so forth that I will need and how much food I will need  to prepare.  Also, I will need to decide a menu, figure out how much it will cost and whether if any of my intended guests have allergies or medical conditions or foods that they absolutely do not like or absolutely love.  What beverages will you serve?  Alcoholic or Non- Alcoholic?  If you have guests who are former alcoholics or expecting mothers, you will have to find them an alternative.  Will serving them an alternative single them out and hurt their feelings?  Perhaps serving an non-alcoholic alternative would be better.  There are many wonderful new options.  As you can see there can be a lot to take into consideration.  By putting all of these things into a logical order, you can break it down so that nothing is left out.  In the example, of a dinner party, I would suggest following the above order.  Start with the who and how many as it provides the information you need for the following steps, make sure you ask them or tell them all information they need to help them decide if they are going to attend, such as attire.  Not everyone can afford to buy a new outfit for a dinner party.  If you don't know this information first you could be making more steps for yourself.  A lack of park could effect attendance and therefore effect how much food you will need to get and who you need to take into consideration when deciding your menu. So make sure that there is parking and then if arrangements need to be made, make them.  Decide your menu and then do the shopping, including the small items that you may need that you don't normally need at home.  Budget your time the day of the event, also budget for things to go wrong. Once you have all of your steps figured out the day of the event, just follow them and you will find that next to nothing should go wrong.
Why would anyone want to spend that kind of time when they can just make the decision and/or action?  This is a completely valid question.  There are some people who do these steps or something similar naturally without deciding to use a method of any kind.  But this method is perfect for absent minded professors, teachers, mothers or anyone has a lot on their plate!

Brangelina Breaking Up Again

They are together.  They've broken up.  She's cheating with another girl.  He's flirting with his latest leading lady.  They are both contacting their lawyers.  Frankly, who cares.  It's not our relationship yet the tabliods insist on tormenting us with story after story about this couple's relationship status.  I have to say that I am impressed with their ability to maintain the strength of their bond, while constantly bombarded by the tabloid toddlers.  I say good on them.  I know many might scoff at the thought the celebrities have hard time.  But we never have to see or read about our relationships on the front page of some trashy magazine.  We don't have cameras in our faces when we have to run out of the house for stamps or a loaf of bread.  As far as the status Brangelina's relationship let's leave to them shall we.

Welcome

Hey!  It's been a long time since I actually had a blog that was just about me and not about a particular aspect of me or hobby of mine.  The last time I tried it was during a time of other people's drama and I let myself get swept up in its whirlwind.  Well. not this time.  This blog is about me and what's going on with me and what I think about stuff that is going on in the world.  The last year has taught me that the only person/thing that I can control is myself and that it is not my job to be a mother or teacher to anyone, especially if they haven't asked for my help or advice in the first place.  So this blog, is going to be drama free and just about me and what the turning wheel teaches me.